Writing our own vows (revise)...

When reading some of the guides on " how to write your own wedding vow", the writer suggests everyone to answer a set of questions that would help brainstorming of the vow...I think this is a nice thing to share:

• What is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry?
  May and I share the same dream and have the same goals in life. We refuse to accept that our life will not live as full as others because we are gay.  We want to exhibit our right like anybody else and share the responsibility to the society like anybody else. We want to have a family.  We will buy a house. We will have a baby. We want to pass our knowledge, our family heritage and our fine value to our kid...
  
  Not only May and I share the exact same goals, but we are also sure that we have the determination and ability to make this come true. Best of all, we have the love to connect the whole plan together. I mean, what are the chance of having able to deeply in love with someone and share the exact same goals in life at the same time?
  
  
• When did you know that you were in love/ know that this person was the one you wanted to marry?
  Similar to the stuffs I mention in last question, we fit so well into each other's future. May makes me feel my dream of having a family is not just a dream. She can make it happen. In additional, When May use years to prove me that she can love me without asking any return even before we were together, I knew she is the one.
  
  
• What does marriage mean to you? Why do you want to be a married person?
  Base on my identity as a lesbian
  For the longest time, marriage was only between a man and a woman. It takes thousands of years and the efforts of millions of people to achieve today’s equality. As a sexual minority, I feel I am obligated to exhibit this right.
  
  My personal opinion
  Marriage is the heaviest and the most risky promise a person can make. It will cost your heart, your money, your time and even your life. Lots of people prefer to simply living together. However, to be able to dedicate your heart, your money and your time to another person at this moment is a whole lot of different then promise to dedicate your life to another person forever{continuum} in front of the world{witness}. The later one requires courage, unselfishness, patient and so much more.
  
  In additional, this promise is not only between two persons. Their families also involve. Marriage is NEVER a two persons’ thing. It is a family responsibility. But I am not saying things like recruiting a more wealthy family to your own through marriage or continue the family bloodline. Those are just some shallow point of view toward marriage.
  
  If you understand the reason behind when parents keep hurrying you to get married, you will know that marriage is the best gift children can give back to their parents.  It is a gift of pace of mind. The old Chinese idiom said, “養兒一百歲，長憂慮九十九”. Knowing they can hardly live to 99 years old, all parents wish that their children would be well taking care of long after they die. They would not grow old alone and die alone. It is just as simple as that. Marriage is the best way to keep your parents from regret when they die.
  
  I remember when I told my mum about us getting married, she told me she felt released. Having such a kind and wonderful person as May to spend my life with, she truly feels that I could be well taking care of. She said I cured her from one of the biggest worries in her life. She can spend more time to enjoy hers. As a daughter, I feel I've achieve one of the biggest duty in life--I made my mum happy and ease.
  
  Realistically, marriage is also a big gamble in your personal and your family wealth. When ones marriage broke, she needs to split everything into half with her ex-spouse. If your personal properties are connected to your families, the suffering is extensive.
  
  Knowing all there facts about marriage, not a lot of people dare to make this promise, unless they meets someone who is so wonderful and perfect that their own life would seem pointless without her. I am lucky to be one of these people.
  
  I once heard of the story of soulmate. In Plato's Symposium, he mentions human beings were once have 2 set of arms, 2 set of legs and 2 faces to look the opposite directions. There were three sexes at that time, two men, two women and a man + a woman. Zeus worried that the man kind were too powerful to control, so he split them into half. In order to be completed again, human beings have to find back their separated half. This other half is your best friend. She is your helper. She has the ability to heal all the illness that stop you from being happy.
  
  May is my soulmate. She is my BBF. She advances me to be a better person. She soothes away my worries with just a touch or a word.  She has the kindest heart to love and respect my family and my heritage. When she is not around, time seems so empty and slow. I don’t know where I should put my hand if hers is not holding mine. I cannot image my life without her. To such a person, I am willing to make my promise.
  
   
• What will change about your relationship once you are married? What will stay the same?
  From the first week we engaged, I felt our life had further merged together. We dealt with each other’s problems as they were our own. The more we work on our wedding, the more our individuality seems to recede. I believe we will completely marge into a singularity when we are married.
  
  Our dream of having a happy family has always been the same since the first day we met. We have achieved the first step of this dream by getting married. I am confident that our determination on this life long goal will stay the same long after we married.
  
  
• What is your most favorite memory of your partner?
  My most favorite memory of May is the time when she showed me the most touching thing in the world when we first decided to be together after all those years.
  
  She took out a well wore paper from her wallet and ask me to read it. It was the contract I had written for her 2 year ago when we’d almost been together. The contract described our plans for our dream family. After all these years and all the things happened, she still carried our dream with her everywhere she goes.  That was the moment when I understood, there will be no one in this world would love me the way she does. My life is full as long as I have her love.
  
  
   
• When you were little, did you dream of your wedding day or your future spouse? How does that vision match up (or not) with your sweetheart?
  When I was little, I never want to think of getting married. I cannot bear of the image that I need to be with a boy. I always said to my mum that I would stay single for the rest of my life.
  
  When I fell in love for the first time, I still dare not to think about getting married. The world seems to turn against my choice of lifestyle. Happily ever after was the least thing I cared at that time.
  
  Later when I was finally able to get my family’s support, It's a constantly fell in and out of love. Even imagining wedding is too much too ask for at that time. After so many times of disappointment, I started to question the possibility that I can ever find the right girl to build my family with. Having a wedding or not is not that big of a deal compare to that.
  
  Until I fell in love with May and found out that she is the one.  That was the beginning when I started dreaming what my wedding day would look like. It was May all along. There won't be a picture if she is not in it.